Stop Waiting For Your Life to Start After You’re Married
Posted On August 2, 2017
Singles, it’s time to focus on that project/business you always dreamed about ! Take it from successful entrepreneur Alexa Reynolds who specializes in photography, branding and web design. Reynolds birthed her company Virtuous Beauty after being in a couple of relationships that didn’t work out. Reynolds learned to make God her portion and encourage millennials with positive words, images and videos ! Read below to see how you can get started on your dream now !
Habiba Abudu (HA) : You share that you had opportunities of being married, what happened ?
Alexa Reynolds (AR) : Yes, I was almost engaged twice. Both times, the relationships ended up falling apart due to lack of consistency and authenticity.
HA : How were you able to heal from those relationships not working out?
AR : It wasn’t easy. The first time was easier than the second, but both times hurt. To come so close to marriage twice, feeling like you’ve finally figured it out, then God reveals things, and it’s all over. The healing came through transparency with myself and God. I couldn’t sweep things under the rug and act like it didn’t happen. There were times when I sat on my bed and questioned God. I even became a little angry because I didn’t understand it all. God knew what he was doing though. Writing has always been an outlet for me too. Sharing on my blog what I was going through provided me with a sense of satisfaction. I also have a great group of sisters/friends and family who support me.
HA : Can you discuss how you were able to build your brand, Virtuous Beauty, during your season of singleness?
AR : Singleness is the perfect time to focus on the things that you’re passionate about. A lot of people think that you need to wait for marriage to walk in “purpose”… absolutely not! If I was married or in a relationship, I wouldn’t have half the time that I have now to work on my brand. I shifted my focus from relationships to pouring into Virtuous Beauty. There’s nothing like being able to come home to a quiet apartment and being able to brainstorm in peace.
HA : Can you discuss some other ventures, you were able to pursue as a single ?
AR : Traveling with my girls is one of my favorite things to do. I love taking daily trips in my area. I also have been taking time to learn about MYSELF. It sounds funny but I learn something new about myself everyday.
HA : What has helped you develop confidence and joy in your season of singleness ?
AR : Fully knowing that I am in the hands of God. Before this realization, I struggled with comparing myself to others. As long as I am following God’s voice I know I am not missing out on anything that is supposed to be mine.
HA : What are some different ways that singles can build their relationship with God ?
AR : Spend time in His Word and with Him. You have all of the time in the world right now. I have many married friends who wished that they utilized the time that they had as a single. It can be as easy as sitting on the floor, playing music, and listening to podcasts. Also community… surround yourself with others who can pour into you.
HA : What advice would you give to those who want to enjoy their life, but can’t move past the fact that they’re single ?
AR : JUST DO IT – Marriage is not the answer to everything. When we begin to realize that the things we see on social media aren’t always what they appear to be, we will live much happier lives.