There’s seem to be some kind of misconception going around that being frustrated with being single is not a thing. Well, excuse me but it’s just not true.
I, myself have been single for almost 8 years and I’ve certainly have had my fair share of frustrated moments. I mean after 8 years, wouldn’t you? However, I don’t allow myself to make a home in those moments.
See, I understand what most single women don’t- that wallowing in frustration is not a good look. When you’re single, you have to be careful of the energy you put out there. If you’re always frustrated, or acting out in frustration, how can you expect a man to be attracted to you?
I mean, would you be attracted to someone who gives off that kind of energy? I’m sure that’s not on that list you came up with when you thought about your dream man.
See frustration can breed bitterness and anger. That’s why you have to be careful not to let it consume you. So what do you do with all that built up frustration?
I’ll tell you what you don’t do. You don’t call an ex. You don’t rant on social media. And you surely don’t think of yourself as someone who’s worthless just because you’re single.
No girlfriend, you LIVE. And you live life more ABUNDANTLY during those moments.
You go out in your favorite outfit and dance the night away. Or you spend a random night in the city and get a hotel and jump on the bed. You can also go on a meditative nature walk. Or go shopping and treat yourself to at least one thing you don’t really need. Travel for the weekend to see a long-distance friend or family member. Buy tickets to a show. Just hang out with yourself. Have your very own Netflix and Chill night in your favorite PJs, order some delivery and just binge watch a show you never have time to watch. My personal favorite, is taking myself on a spa date. I get a man and pedi and massage. Nothing like hot stones to make you forget all about your relationship status.
Whatever you choose to do, choose to not live this season of your life in frustration. Being single is not a disease. In fact, it’s surely to be the most purposeful time of your life if you allow it.
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