When I was first asked about writing for a young married blog I thought silently inside the deep spaces of my mind and wondered, “they do know I am single right?” It was a moment of amusing humor I found to be the highlight of my day. Me? Write for a married blog? I laughed for a good 20 minutes and thought I could give tidbits on blocking the every other weekend pictures of engagements and wedding I Do’s on social media etc. So I to myself sure I can make this work. Then I received the first two topics we had to choose from:
- Single women
My heart stopped. Seriously, why were we literally single women “singled out” as a topic of discussion? Why wasn’t it just singleness in general? Why did those two words: “single women” cut so deep into my heart and made me feel as if we had a special syndrome or crazy psychological anomaly. Did we not have single men out there hanging out at the same train stop as us? After barely looking at the email because of my inner angry feminist fumes, I heard the Holy Spirit softly whisper to me something profound, simple and beautifully piercing to my spirit.
He said, ”Angela single women is not a thing to be disgraced by or feel at arms to make war with, but single women have been chosen because they need to echo a new found heart for the moment, they are an answer in their position, they have a place of profound influence in their culture and their cries are buried in the Father’s heart to awaken a love for the ages, for people, the kingdom, the Father and the future mate God has delicately crafted for them.”
Single women are a lovely, wonderful cry on the Father’s heart. While we long for a mate and a future spouse, God desires for us to balance our life in these areas: *LEARNING<LOVING<PURSUING*
LEARNING< We have to learn who we are in His kingdom. We have to ask God to show us who He desires for us to become in this molding, breaking and refining season.
LOVING< He wants us to love HIM deeper, love others more then we know how and to love who He has designed US to be. He is the master craftsman who uniquely equipped each of us with strengths the world needs. We have to open our eyes and ears to seeing and hearing where those gifts are needed. We need to be like our beautiful ancestors Ruth, Esther, Deborah and Mary. Women who decided who they were, would not be determined by their gender or role in society . That being a woman was not weakness, but an insurgence of power and engaging strength. But only after taking heart to understanding who God had designed them to be as women.
PURSUE<We have to be willing to accept this moment as being a single woman as a pinpoint on the trail. It is a stopping point on the journey to our finish line. We pursue the word deeper, dreaming bigger and falling more in love with Christ. We pursue HIM to truly embrace who He wants us to be before we can ever move on to the future holdings and treasures he has waiting on us.
Single women it may seem trivial to be on this boat, but when you find yourself on the tides of waiting and longing know He is the steadfast, anchor of HOPE. Your time is truly now to change the world. Do not wait for a proposal, a perfect person or plans. It’s the now season single women to be all of who you are and arise up for your light has come. Your season of influence and radiance is ready. The world awaits. God echo’s the cries of your heart and longs to know you more, to walk with you holding your hand until the next season. Whether it be dating, marriage or continuing in your single journey, through it all the one thing remains is Jesus is our constant. He is the constant companion, friend, redeemer, lover and Savior. I will leave you with this:
Ephesians 1:9-11 (NLT)
“God’s secret plan has now been revealed to us; it is a plan centered on Christ, designed long ago according to his good pleasure. 10 And this is his plan: At the right time he will bring everything together under the authority of Christ — everything in heaven and on earth. 11 Furthermore, because of Christ, we have received an inheritance from God, for he chose us from the beginning, and all things happen just as he decided long ago.”