Recently, scrolling through social media I’ve observed an increase in the amount of “relationship talk” circling the virtual world. As we all may know the Autumn season is considered “cuffing” season, which basically means romantic relationships are on the rise. This seems to be a constant expectation that surfaces every year around this time. I must admit the weather, activities and the overall scenery in the Autumn season is rather cozy. In the summer, many dream of the cute and fun things they can plan in perfect Autumn weather! I myself being one of those people, HA!
If you’re single it can seem like just a distant dream at times. I completely understand the struggle because I’ve been there. Maybe you’re hoping that this season is your season for courtship and marriage preparation. Honestly, it’s not my place to say if it is or if it isn’t, this is something that is between you and God. However, I am here to give you a sincere suggestion and because you’re reading this, my opinion on readiness.
One way to determine readiness is to measure the health of your heart. If you have a sick heart more than likely you’re not ready for a relationship. If your heart is full of fear, unforgiveness or bitterness more than likely you’re not ready for a relationship. In this scenario, it would be wise to empty your heart of these things if you desire to be married or a happier life in general.
But, did you also know that your heart can be full of clutter and this can determine your readiness?
Google defines clutter as “a collection of things lying about in an untidy mass”! WOW! Therefore, if your heart is full of clutter it is basically an organized mess…OUCH! It’s possible, at this point, that you’re questioning what has cluttered your heart or if your heart is a unorganized mess. Well, if the clutter isn’t the things listed above such as fear, unforgiveness, bitterness, mistrust, or anything similar…then, what is it?
Hmm…. Have you considered idols? Have you considered that you’ve made relationships and marriage an idol within your heart? An idol is anything that you have made a god in the heart and that you worship as such, knowingly or unknowingly. In Exodus 20:3 God tell us “you must not have any other god but me”.
Here’s the thing I know about God and that I am absolutely certain of, He will not allow you to walk into or access anything that has been made an idol in your heart. God is a jealous God and He wants us to serve Him and Him alone. If He were to give you the very thing that you worship or have made a god in your heart, He knows that you will leave Him for it. This is why God tests the heart so often to see what we are honestly ready to handle. If He tests the heart and sees that there are idols constructed there, He will withhold what He needs to withhold from us until we are ready.
I’m not explaining all of this to scare you, but I am saying all of this for you to begin to look inside you heart and see what needs to be cleaned out. It’s time to declutter the heart!
My encouragement to you in this season of waiting and preparation is to search your own heart and ask the Lord to search it as well. Be intentional about decluttering the heart of idols and make your prayer this season “Father, declutter my heart of false idols and gods”.