How to Love and Bless Your Mate On Purpose

Everyone wants an awesome marriage that glorifies God and shows the depths of His love and grace. Marriage is a true gift and an amazing blessing from God. Yet, sometimes life gets busy where the gift of marriage is not always cherished by couples the way that God intended. Being married for 8 years to a wonderful husband, I have learned that keeping Jesus at the center of our marriage helps us to continue to love and bless each other on purpose as we grow together in love.

Couples should live in marriage to love and bless each other with their words and actions. The atmosphere of any Christian marriage should be based the demonstration of agape love. Agape love, when shown continually, brings life into relationships. On the other hand, couples that spend time saying or doing hurtful things to one another, create an atmosphere that cultivates the demise of their relationship.

Love and intimacy in a marriage helps to build long lasting friendship and intimacy. When couples love and live according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 on a consistent basis, life-long marital bliss will be their portion. Intimacy can be described as familiarity, closeness, understanding, confidence, caring, tenderness, affection, a close relationship, quiet atmosphere, or private utterance or action. Couples that love each other and seek to be a blessing to each other as genuine friends and enjoy intimate times, will experience the increase and overflow of God’s love in their marriage (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10; 1 Thessalonians 3:12).

There should be everyday occurrences where couples long to love and bless one another out loud. Loving and blessing on purpose will help couples maintain a powerful marriage that is a testament to God’s love for the world to see. Examples of how couples can love and bless each other on purpose would be:

• Smiling and laughing together daily.
• Kissing, hugging, and embracing each other regularly.
• Showing kindness in interactions with each other.
• Going to church and pray with one another regularly.
• Having dates and time alone together each month.
• Listening to one another and communicate with each other.
• Always seeking to promote forgiveness and understanding in the marriage (Ephesians 4:32).
• Never going to bed mad at each other.
• Saying, “I love you” often.

Husbands and wives that love and bless each other on purpose operate in powerful love and exhibit Christ-like character, where loving each other deeply is above anything (1 Peter 4:8). Loving one another selflessly, showing affection, working together, and honoring one another will help defeat the enemy at any attempt to bring division in your marriage. Loving and blessing each other on purpose will strengthen your marriage daily, uniting each other as a powerful team for the Lord.