Ladies, Stop Losing the Interest of Potentials: 10 Things that Scare Men Away
Ever date a guy and he up and disappears? Now you’re left wondering “What did I do wrong?” Been there, done that! So here is a list of 10 things woman do to scare men away early on in the relationship. This list is comprised of personal experience as well as responses from social media:
1. Investing Beyond the Relationship Status-
We, as woman, are naturally loving and want to help men in any way possible. This is a turn off to some men, as he may feel you are “doing too much”. I remember telling a guy I was going to buy him a Fossil watch after only knowing him for 1 month (but it was Christmas, so I wasn’t really doing too much, was I? That was a rhetorical question.). Eventually he shared with me that my intentions “scared him because the investment was bigger than our status”.
2. Prematurely Discussing the Future-
I was super excited for the same guy to meet my family; it’s all I talked about. I told him how much he’d love my family…. it turns out that meeting the family within a few weeks of dating is indeed too much.
Social Media Response (responses to my status)
3. The “Independent Woman Syndrome”-
“Don’t get me wrong, I love a strong woman; however, there can’t be two Alpha Males in one relationship. If you’re too independent…there’s no need for me”
“Women who are rude and disrespectful to wait staff is a real turn off. It says a lot about a person’s character.”
5. Talking About Marriage
“LAWD! LAWD! LAWD! If you mention marriage on the first date, I’m not calling you again, lol. Seriously, it’s a major turn off when women bring up marriage 1,209,872,347,095 times and we don’t even know each other’s favorite color yet.
6. Discussing Life’s Problems Too Early
“Don’t get me wrong, we all have problems; BUT, I don’t want to hear about them at every meal! It comes off as ‘ungrateful’.”
7. Un-closed Doors-
“PLEASE! I beg you! Close every opened door before you attempt to date a man. There’s nothing worse that being with a woman whose heart belongs to someone else”
8. No Career Plans-
“I like a woman with drive! If you can’t share what you’d like to accomplish in life, I can’t date you.”
9.Unable to Define Love-
“Everyone wants it, but not everyone knows how to give it. It’s hard to believe someone who can’t define love would know how to appropriately give it.
“My interest can not be your only interest and my friends cannot be your only friends. I like women who have their own interests and friends.”
LADIES, no matter how “confident” your interest appears to be “DO NOT DISCUSS OTHER MALES”. I dated a guy who appeared to be uber confident. I always talked about my boy-best friend, and he flat-out told me: “I don’t want to hear about your friend. No man wants to hear about another man all the time.” Honestly, I meant no harm! I just discuss the people I love with EVERYONE.
Remember to let the man lead, keep these tips in mind, and here’s to not scaring away your dates in 2017. Lol.