I honestly pray that women who read this and desire marriage will experience such a covenant ordained by God himself. However, are you frustrated because it seems as though good guys continue to overlook you? If you’re tired of this happening and desire to be found, here are a few possible reasons why Mr. Right hasn’t found you yet…
By the way, these reasons may sound harsh, but I want to give you the honest truth.
- You’re Not Approachable! Smile Lately?
Ladies, this is the unfortunate truth. If you have an attitude, if you’re always looking super serious, stuck-up, angry, bitter, annoyed, or the like… what man will want to approach you? More than likely, your facial expressions scare off men before they even decide to approach you. Some may say, “I look this way to keep the counterfeits away.” Well, you’re keeping the good guys away as well. As long as you are led by wisdom and the holy spirit, counterfeits won’t stand a chance anyway.
I encourage you to smile more. You shouldn’t look desperate but you should definitely look inviting and welcoming. Men are usually intimidated by the women they approach, so please stop making his job even more difficult by your mean-mug. Yes, he should pursue you but he can’t do that if your facial expressions say, “Stop, stay away!”
- You’re Not Presenting Yourself as a Lady. Appearance Matters!
Here’s another point I want to make very clear. Men like women and they were created to like women. If you present yourself as tough and manly, more than likely this will be an extreme turn-off for a guy. Also, because you are a lady, you should look, smell, and dress as such. No man wants a woman who’s sloppy, whose personal hygiene isn’t up to par, and who doesn’t dress up a bit.
A man will first see your outer appearance, so it’s important to put some work into your physical appearance. Take some time to make sure your hair and outfit are nicely done and put together. Get a manicure and pedicure bi-weekly. Also, I must emphasize again that personal hygiene is extremely important; how you smell matters!
Perfume products such as body wash, lotion, or sprays are not your enemy, they are your friends. (Unless you have an allergy of some sort, of course; then you may want to think of alternate options.)
- You’ve Created Your Spouse in Your Mind. There’s No Room for Mr. Right!
Lastly, I want you to know that sometimes what you’ve imagined and cultivated in your mind regarding what you feel your future spouse will or should look like doesn’t always materialize. Most people don’t marry the person they created in their heads. Honestly, the basis of it is all fantasy. Could it be that a nice gentleman who doesn’t meet your expectations physically but who meets your needs spiritually, morally, and personality-wise is trying to get your attention but you’re overlooking him? OUCH!
Ladies, this happens all the time! Now, I am not encouraging you to be open to someone you are completely un-attracted to, but I am saying to be a little more open by tearing down the false image of a spouse you’ve created in your mind. It’s just not healthy, and you’re probably missing out on a blessing from God.
Just a little bit of wisdom… hope this was helpful!