I know it’s hard in today’s sex crazed world to maintain your vow of purity and celibacy, but I tell you, it can be done. I’m holding at 6 and half years strong and here’s how I’ve done it.
Know your triggers
If you know kissing causes you to get weak in the knees and you fall into that person’s bed, then you may want to steer away from that. Save kissing for the wedding. If you know that you can’t be alone in a room with a specific someone and control yourself, then you shouldn’t spend time by yourself with that person. Call over some friends and hang out as a group. Guard your eye gates. If you know you can’t watch certain movies with sexual scenes without starting to feel lustful or listen to certain songs, then turn off the movie and watch some comedy, turn the song to something without sexually explicit lyrics, do something that won’t have you feeling all “50 Shades of Grey”.
There’s no sense in tempting yourself.
Set up boundaries when you’re dating
Boundaries are another form of accountability. The word says “don’t give the enemy a foothold”, meaning don’t give the enemy any room to come in and tempt you. He will take full advantage of every opportunity. It’s good to have boundaries when you’re dating because it allows you protect yourself. Boundaries help you to define where you and your partner should start and stop. To put it another way, boundaries are LIMITS. Boundaries also help eliminate the blame game. If you and your partner know the boundaries and respect the boundaries, then you won’t have to play the blame game when something goes wrong.
Some boundaries you can set up in your dating relationship are:
-Never spending time at each other houses
-No dates that aren’t in public places
-Setting up time limits on the phone (example: no talking after 9:30 pm),
-No casual conversation that can lead to talking about things you shouldn’t.
I encourage you to set up personal boundaries and boundaries for dating relationships.
This is going to be the best way to fight against any temptation that may lead you down the road of bad choices. When you think you want to watch porn, pray and then pray some more. When you have impure thoughts, pray and then pray some more. If you find yourself in a compromising situation, don’t feel like you can’t stop. Don’t ignore the Holy Spirit. Get up, STOP! Then pray and pray some more, pray for forgiveness and then know that you are forgiven. Don’t allow the guilt of a decision weigh you down, that will only lead you to make more bad decisions. Pray and know that God will provide a way out of every temptation. He says so in His word.
If you really consider the first two ways I provided then you likely won’t find yourself in compromising situations, however we are human, just know you don’t have to keep going down the wrong path. You can turn back around.
Forgive me for the times I have not honored You with my body.Help me to flee from all forms of sexual immorality by fleeing to you. Help me to keep my outward actions and inner thoughts pure before Your eyes- whether I am in public view or in a secret place. Purify my heart and develop in me pure thoughts, words, actions and motives that honor your Holy name.I want to live for You even in a world that doesn’t. I pray that my resistance to temptation increases and my need to follow the patterns of this world decreases. Lord God, I commit myself to you and I take this commitment seriously.
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