How “No-Spending Weekends” Saved My Marriage
Guest Writer: Craig Bailey
Dinner $80…parking $15…movie night at home PRICELESS. Today it’s easy for couples to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life. With so much going on, you and your mate can fall into the trap of feeling like you have to go out and spend money entertaining yourselves every weekend. What started as a money saving experiment, ended up helping my wife and I remember what matters most.
The experiment was a no-spending weekend. About a year later we still try to have one of these once a month. Living in Los Angeles a weekend out can add up quickly and after realizing we were spending almost $300 every weekend, we decided to try and go one weekend without spending any money.
Let me be clear — this means no debit card, no checks are written, no credit cards are used, nothing. We would buy groceries or gas during the week so we wouldn’t have to buy those things on the weekend. We would check our schedules to make sure the weekend we picked made sense. Then we were all set.
Initially, it was tough trying to think of ways to fill our time that didn’t cost money, but eventually we got the hang of it. We did things like play dominoes (I always won), watch movies, read together, exercise, cook together and go to the beach. What was more surprising than saving thousands of dollars was the impact it had on our relationship.
With work, school, friends, commuting and ME-time it didn’t leave much room for sincere quality time with my wife. Instead of us spending our time in loud restaurants or on congested freeways, we spent more time together alone. Now, we laugh more. We talk more. We spend more time getting closer to God. The indirect results have been absolutely amazing. These no-spending weekends have truly been a blessing in disguise. I encourage all couples to try this in your relationships. You and your spouse will love the results it has on your relationship, in addition to what it will do for your bank account.
About Craig Bailey:
I am the founder and creator of financialseeds.net. I am the President and Chief Financial Officer of Green Financial Solutions, a Beverly Hills, CA based financial planning firm. I am a licensed investment adviser and registered Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA) member.
My firm’s exclusive Steady Growth investment portfolio had at return of just under 24% for 2014. (Source: Motif Investing) And I am blessed to get the opportunity to serve individuals on their financial journeys. I must admit my greatest accomplishment is marrying my beautiful wife who I met in seventh grade.