As the holidays are quickly approaching, I know what you’re thinking. Another holiday.. SINGLE. Trust me I understand. (Also, visit www.SingleForTheHolidays.com; Married and Young would LOVE to help you get perspective of this season and how to handle it!)
The holidays can be a bit frustrating for us singles, so that’s why I’ve put together a survival kitto help us get through the holiday season.
Be your own “Santa”. You don’t need to have a boyfriend to receive a gift. Go out and buy exactly what you want. For yourself. When you’re your own Santa, you can guarantee you won’t be disappointed. So splurge, sis! Get those diamond earrings you’ve been eyeing all year or that dress you seen in the magazine. Don’t hold back. You deserve it!
Pamper yourself. Before you head to your parents house for the holidays- I know how eager you are to answer questions about why you’re still single- book a day at the spa. Get your hair done, nails done, brows done and even throw in a massage. De-stress yourself from the woes of the year. Being single for the holidays means you don’t have to feel guilty about taking care of yourself FIRST.
Attend a Holiday Party. Go out. Have fun. Don’t sit in the house sulking. Get out there. Throw on that dress you brought yourself, pull out your favorite red lipstick, your highest heel and hit the town. Holiday parties are a great way to get your mind off of being single and who knows you could bump into your future husband while you’re out on the dance floor.
Change your focus. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. You have good health, a job, a roof over your head and a family that loves you. It’s easy to think about how you’re still single but no one ever became grateful thinking about what they didn’t have. Instead they focused on what they did have and they enjoyed their portion… happily.
Prayer. And lots of it. Take it in large doses. You will need it. I don’t know how your holiday dinners go but at my house there’s always questions about why I’m still single. No one seems to understand that being single is a choice. Meaning I’m choosing not to enter in a relationship prematurely just to say I have someone. No way! That’s a “sure-a-fide” way to end up in divorce court. No thanks! I rather wait a little while longer. So take it from me, I have plenty of experience with this and prayer will help get you through all the questions.
Listen, the holiday season doesn’t have to be dreadful. It’s all in what you make of it. You can choose to enjoy it or you can choose to be depressed. It’s your choice. But I encourage you to choose to be HAPPY.
Kay King is a blogger and advice columnist who lives in Richmond, Va. She loves Jesus, being a mother, shoes and traveling. She believes that empowered women, empower women, so she encourages women daily to walk in their purpose. Check out her website: www.thepowerofgodlywom.wix.com/power. She's also part owner of Crowned, LLC, a Christian based business geared towards educating men and women on purity, celibacy and abstinence. Follow on IG @Crowned_LLC She is a purposed woman of God and she is always looking for ways to inspire others to be all God has called them to be.Check out more of her blogs at www.asinglewomansdiary.com