5 Steps to Break the Cycle of Failed Marriages
Have you noticed a repeated cycle of family breakdown, conflict, struggling marriages and/or divorce in your bloodline? This is a sign that a generational curse may be operating. I personally come from a lineage of adultery, illegitimate children and divorce. Both my mother and father were divorced once before meeting. I later became their “love child,” since my father was still married to his second wife when I was conceived. Not so coincidentally, my mother was also conceived under similar circumstances.
The Bible mentions “generational curses” in several places (Exodus 20:5; 34:7; Numbers 14:18; Deuteronomy 5:9). In these verses we see that iniquities (sins) causes a recurring curse to be passed down to the third and fourth generations. Thankfully, Jesus carried our iniquities to the cross and generational curses can be broken. In Isaiah 53:5-6, it says: “But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; the chastisement for our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we are healed. We all like sheep have gone astray; we have turned, every one, to his own way; and the LORD has laid on Him the iniquity of us all.”
Before marriage, in relationships I struggled fully investing myself and never had a healthy respect for men. It was as if something would rise up from within that caused me to detach from any relationship. Even when I recognized my challenges and desired to change, I was never successful. After giving my life to Christ, it finally dawned on me that what continued to rise up within me were actually demonic forces which needed to be dealt with. I quickly recognized these cycles as a generational curse.
I am the first of my parent’s children to break these recurring patterns in our family. It became imperative to me to do whatever necessary to break them.
Here are 4 steps to break the generational cycles of failed marriages in your life:
1. Awareness. Are you aware of any generational challenges you and your family face? In order to be free from them you have to first recognize there is a problem. This may sound simple, however, there are many people who are ignorant of or in denial of the destructive relationship patterns they face.
2. Ownership. No matter what has happened in our generational line, each of us are responsible for the choices and decisions we make today. Take ownership of the ungodly vows, actions, attitudes, tendencies, beliefs and/or emotions you have in regards to your relationships.
3. Repentance. Once you accept ownership, renounce any agreement you’ve made in your heart with any of those ungodly beliefs, thoughts, vow, emotions, etc. and repent.
4. Practice. Now it’s imperative to practice doing the opposite in the areas you’ve renounced and repented.
5. Prayer. If you continue to face challenges it may be necessary to receive deliverance prayer.