At first the struggle was real. It was playing no games. I sensed it following me for days, weeks, and months. It was the only thing in the back of my mind like a constant carousel ride. Being a semi, somewhat, sort of grown up was hard.
Balancing a checkbook, keeping receipts, paying bills, eating literally off of the value menu was the route of good tidings and great joy my adulthood had started off in. After graduating from college at LaTech I felt inspired to conquer the world, with a pretty degree in hand the entire world beckoned including a steady job and paycheck to finally enjoy the goodness of this thing about being grown up had to offer. It unfortunately wasn’t that easy.
Life is rocky; the road to growing up isn’t wrapped in a pretty bow. It’s the journey of learning, trusting and dependence on the strength of Christ, not your own. When we continue to try to create the answers, create solutions on our own we deny the gift of providence and provision from Christ.
We devalue the ability of God to be who he is in our lives. With every change that life throws at us especially during singlehood it creates an opportunity to discover in our weakness, struggles, confusion, doubt we are made strong, confident, determined and at peace in Him.
There are five ways to help you relinquish the burdens of life and allow Christ to carry them. “The LORD is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the strength of my salvation, and my stronghold.” Psalm 18:2
- Embrace change– Understand change will come its inevitable in so many stages of life. The thing is being accepting of its approach and knowing God has seasons of change for all of us. Change may never be fun but if we learn to accept it with grace it can be easier to endure.
- Learn to Say No- When we try to balance it all we tend to try to please others. There is nothing wrong with giving and being a servant to others. But when it becomes more about being worried over the thoughts of others than for your own security and future God has, sometimes saying No is the magic word.
- Taking Timeouts- Life has its obstacles courses of difficulty. It has learning curves and decisions. The best thing we can do is take time to get away, to take a breather and de-clutter the changes in our life.
- Speaking Life over Yourself- One thing I have found is proclaiming the promises of the Word in the seasons of change and growing. Even when it doesn’t seem like it does anything the proclamations build our faith.
- Learn to Enjoy the Journey- Even in the midst of growing up, discovering your future you have to understand God wants us to be filled with joy in these times, to celebrate life even in the season of change. Go out and have a fun night with friends, do something spontaneous, rejoice in the life you’ve been given.