5 Lessons I Learned from Meeting My Wife on Facebook
If you are like me, a hopeless romantic, then you have already thought of or written out exactly how you want to meet your future spouse. Mine was that I would be at the grocery store and turn on isle 3 to get some pasta sauce and she would also be on the same isle looking for noodles. Our buggies would collide causing her to almost fall down, but I would catch her causing our eyes to meet. And…we would live happily ever after.
Your story may be completely different, but we all have at least once day dreamed about how we would meet them. Well, I am now married going on 4 years and my wife and I didn’t meet on isle 3, but rather the most unexpected place especially for us.
Yes, we met on Facebook. Yes, it really does happen.
I want to share with you 5 lessons I learned from meeting my wife on Facebook.
1. You May Not Meet Your Spouse How You Plan
This is the most important lesson out of the 5 simply because if I hadn’t been open to the reality that we might not meet in a way that I planned then I might still be single right now. Facebook was the LAST PLACE I ever thought I would meet my wife, and BOOM that’s exactly how we met.
2. Your Profile and Behavior Online Means A lot More than You Expect
My wife and I were both in a prayer group on Facebook and one day I saw her post a few prayers that really caught my attention. I then clicked on her page, and yes went through her pictures. I was shocked that we were already Facebook friends. She was very beautiful which caused me to do some more digging, leading me to her blog. If she would’ve had crazy pictures up or wild stuff happening on her page then I probably would’ve ended my curiosity there. So, be conscious of how you have your page setup because you never know who might be curious about you.
3. Nothing Wrong With Taking Your Time to Get to Know Someone
After learning that she was single, I sent her a very friendly message through Facebook. I know you may be like…Wow, you stalked her and then messaged her? Yes, lol. It may be creepy then, but now its romantic because we’re married. We messaged back and forth a few times but nothing serious at all and that went on for 8 months.
4. Every Relationship Is a Risk No Matter What
After prayer and talking with my pastor I felt the peace after 8 months of being friends with my now wife online. I sent her another message asking if she would be interested in us getting to know one another better. Even after all I did, this was still a risk. Why? Because the moment you involve another human into your world, nothing is guaranteed. This is why wisdom must be your guide helping you make the right decisions to guard your heart through the process.
5. Have a Relationship Support System in Place Before You Date
The one thing that made Natasha comfortable to actually be interested in getting to know me better was the strong community of people I had in my life. She saw I was heavily connected at my church and the many friends I had posting and commenting on my wall. But, clearly anyone can have this and still be a bit crazy. But, once Natasha and I were ready to get serious. I asked her if she wanted to speak with some of my friends from my church in order to feel more comfortable. Whether you’re meeting someone online or in person, being able to meet the people they spend majority of their time with really helps you to see what type of person they really are.