The word “love” is so misused today that it has lost it true meaning.
Even in marriages, sometimes couples use the word “love” in a casual manner. It is important to consider what love actually means and how we show love in marriage God’s way. The love that God desires in marriage is seen in Colossians 3:14, where it says “the most important piece of clothing you must wear is love. Love is what binds us together in perfect harmony.” We are to put love on as a daily garment in our marriage. But what does it mean to “put on love and to wear it on purpose?”
Reading the Message version of Ephesians 5:1-2 has taught me about how to love Christ’s way. Here is what it says: “Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.”
In marriage, I’ve learned a very important lesson about putting on love with my husband. When I limit love to just an emotion, my love for him becomes a love that is unsteady and changeable. In light of Ephesians 5:1-2, when I put on my love and wear it daily, my love for my husband takes on a lifelong pursuit of following Jesus’ example of extravagant, selfless, and intimate love.
To wear love well, here are 4 ways that I have learned to love my husband:
- Saying “I love you” daily. Don’t take for granted that your spouse knows that you love them. Regularly taking the time to tell your husband or wife these three words will show them how much you love and adore them. Hold hands and hug regularly. Give public praise and brag on them in front of others shows that you love and respect them.
- Choose to serve and make sacrifices for your spouse. Honor your spouse by going to see a movie or visiting a restaurant that they prefer. Serve them breakfast in bed or do a chore that they would normally do to express your love and appreciation for them.
- Write a love letter. A handwritten love letter expressing your love out of the blue can open up wells of intimacy and pursuit in your relationship.
- Listen well. Making eye contact, while being compassionate and empathetic, communicates that you love and care about your husband or wife’s well being.
These 4 ways are only a starting point. Think creatively for your marriage to find ways to wear your love daily. Wearing love daily, like how Jesus loves us, is a complete game changer for marriage. Try it…it works!