3 Reasons to Seek Counseling: Before You Say “I Do”
I recently, just finished pre-martial counseling with my soon-to-be husband. I must say, that it was eye opening on so many levels. One of the things that I discovered, is that my expectations of my soon -to-be husband was based on my past experiences. My expectations of him would have set us up to fail.
I am writing this blog to inspire men and women to seek counseling long before you say, “I Do.” Believe me when I tell you that, it will help you in the long run if you desire to be married.
Here are 3 Reasons to seek counseling before you say “I Do”
1. Deal with the Past
Often times, we as Christians think we have it all together. We view ourselves as amazing individuals that are great catches. In reality, many of us have baggage from our past that hasn’t been dealt with on a deeper level. I can testify that what you don’t deal with privately, will be exposed publicly. When I say publicly, I mean inside of your relationship with the person that God has for you. It happened to me and it didn’t feel good but it was necessary for me to heal and grow as a woman. The counselor will dig into your past and unpack those areas of hurt that you haven’t been able to deal with by yourself.
2. Understand Who You Are
We all have a sense of who we are and our purpose. But do you really know who you are? Some of the things that we have encountered in our pasts will often affect how we view ourselves in our right now and even the future. In order to understand who we are, we often need someone to talk to – one on one. This person will help us view ourselves in the right perspective. All I am saying is that counseling will help bring to the surface those areas in our lives that we hide from the world. Barriers can be broken, freedom will go forth and transparency will flow. Our self-made barriers can stop us from understanding who we are on a deeper level. You should walk away with a deeper understanding of your purpose and calling in this life.
3. Embrace Change
Change is a good thing! We all have things that we need to change about ourselves whether we like it or not. We may think that we are perfect but honestly we all have weaknesses. So allow yourself to be open to wanting to change those areas in your life that may hinder your future. Change is necessary to keep evolving in this life. That’s exactly what counseling brings about is change. You become more open to changing, you become more flexible with yourself and even others. It will be challenging to reevaluate some of your beliefs. Change overall brings about a positive impact in your life.
I’m sharing this with you because it will help you be a better woman/man, a child of God, and even a future spouse. I know counseling is often shunned upon as us being CRAZY – so stereotypical. Counseling is a safe and confidential environment to explore different areas of your life. So before you say “I Do” to dating and especially to marriage– seek counseling.