If Being Single Is Your Only Problem, You’re Blessed!
As a single, I often felt the looming pressure of being in a relationship. Close friends/relatives speculated about my sexuality and I was criticized for being tense, awkward and uninviting to those of the opposite sex. In university, I saw people meet their significant other and I also struggled with depression and created a fantasy life in my mind. I was hoping that Prince Charming would come and take all my worries away. Day after day, as I pined after my dream man, I became increasingly frustrated at God for forgetting about me. I thought I made a great “catch” so why hadn’t my dream man appear yet?
Take the time to Fully Heal and Develop the Fruit of the Spirit
Simply put, I was not ready to be in a relationship. I was insecure, I didn’t know who I was. The restoration process took many years. Years of lies and rejection had to replaced with God’s truth. I had to forgive those who planted deep ingrained wounds in my soul. If I entered a relationship prematurely, I would have projected my fears on that poor soul. I had to learn to be vulnerable and serve people who could spitefully use me. During this period I developed patience, gentleness, love and other fruits of the spirit. I set standards for myself and learned not to give myself to someone simply because they gave me attention. I am truly grateful for my season of restoration.
Trust God’s Timing
God’s ways are not our ways. God created the whole universe with a phrase. We immensely pale in comparison to the wisdom and knowledge of God. God needs to deal with our attitudes, motives and assignments. Marriage is not the most important facet of our lives, being born again is. God wants you and I to be grateful in whatever season that we’re in. There is a beauty in being married as well as in being single. If we try to overstep God’s timing, we risk heartache, missing God’s will for our life and much more.
If Being Single is the Only Problem in Your Life, You’re Blessed
Life and marriage is not about us. Our lives trials, successes and tribulations are for the glory of God. As annoying it may seem, consider it a blessing if being single is the only problem that you currently have in your life. There are people going through much more severe trials. For example, a friend of mines used her season of singleness to provide relief for the on – going Venezuela crisis. In my frailty, I have helped people who were suicidal, purposeless and going through other intense situations.
Find Your Purpose
It’s not about you. It’s about what God wants to do through you. You were made for such a time as this. Get yourself in order. I often hear people run into the ones they’re looking for when they’re not looking! For example, God has allowed me to cultivate my gift of story-telling using multimedia. As we learn to rest in God’s promises, we won’t waste our time being anxious over nothing.
Scriptures and Additional Resources for Singles to Meditate On
But I prefer that you have no concern. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:32 MEV)
Look at the birds of the air, for they do not sow, nor do they reap, nor gather into barns. Yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they ? (Matthew 6:26 MEV)
But he who is married cares for the things of the world, how he may please his wife. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:33 – 34 MEV)