How to Get the Most Out of Your Season of Singleness
Often, being single is dreaded and looked down upon. Sometimes it seems like the lonely life! Everyone is wondering, “When is my ‘good thing,’ ‘rib,’ ‘Boaz,’ or ‘bae’ coming?” However, if you continue focusing on the question of when your season of being snatched will arrive, you will miss out on what you need to learn while single. Being single is truly a blessing, and honestly, it’s a REALLY good time to learn more about yourself and grow in your relationship with Jesus.
So instead of focusing on who is “bae,” let’s focus on how you can enjoy yourself as a single person and get the most of the current season of your life. First, right now it’s just you, yourself … and YOU! It’s a blessing to have time to build yourself until the season comes for you to allow someone into your life. When that time comes, everything shifts and more than likely your life will begin to move very fast. This will give you less time to focus on your own personal growth and health because your time will be split between you and your relationship.
By the way, entering into a relationship means you’re opening up your life to someone else’s dysfunctions, perspectives, and life in general; be prepared for that. You must be as secure as possible in who you are as a person so that you can add to – and not deplete – the person with whom you’re in a relationship.
For now, while you’re single, I encourage you to look in the mirror and learn more about your likes, dislikes, insecurities, strengths, weaknesses, dreams, goals, career aspirations, and ministry gifts. Measure the health of your relationship with God and your friendships. This is the best time to make sure you are as healthy as possible in every area of your life. Be intentional about your own self-development and overall happiness.
Another area to focus on is your relationship with Jesus! Single-hood is a great time to establish and maintain a strict devotional life, growing more passionate about fasting, praying, worshiping, and reading the word of God. These four things are the foundation upon which you should build your life. Make sure you are strong in all four of these areas so that you strengthen yourself for each season of your life.
Lastly, it’s important to have as much fun as possible as a single person. Go to the movies, enjoy hobbies with friends, attend training conferences, travel the world. Whatever you consider fun, DO IT! Currently, you don’t have to think about whether your significant other or your spouse would like to participate in your hobbies … you get the freedom to do what you enjoy! Don’t waste time wondering about “bae” when the truth is that “bae” isn’t here yet … enjoy your life!
Well, there you go! To get the most out of your season of singleness, you must focus on YOU and your current season. How can you enter into a relationship with someone and add to their life if you haven’t taken care of your own life? It’s simply not possible. I promise you, take care of yourself this season and your future “bae” will thank you!