Forgiveness – It’s Essential for Your Marriage!
The most important skill in maintaining unity as a couple is practicing continual forgiveness. In marriage, couples will make mistakes, disappoint one another, and make some poor decisions. No one can deny that these things will occur. The only way to keep a marital relationship growing in the midst of our humanity is to forgive continually. The apostle Paul gave us an incredible challenge in the Word of God, located in Colossians 3:13:
Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you (The Message Bible).
Walking in complete forgiveness in a marriage requires couples to hold nothing against each other and decide to make a daily commitment to practice forgiveness as a lifestyle. Great marriages happen because couples learn never to stop apologizing to and forgiving one another. Couples are to “be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32, LASB).
- Forgiveness begins when couples choose to treat each other the same way that they would want God to treat them. It is when couples extend undeserved mercy that God extends His mercy to them.
- Forgiveness frees you to go forward in life and forward in your relationship. It is a vertical, private act between you and God. Reconciliation is a horizontal act between people who have been separated by a hurt or grievance. Forgiveness and reconciliation work together to protect the integrity and love of a marital relationship. Continually forgiving your mate is all about the Lord’s grace, love, and mercy covering your marriage, through forgiveness, as a powerful testimony of His Glory.
- Forgiveness helps couples to want the best for each other, because being bitter and resentful extracts the love, joy, and peace from your marriage.
- Forgiveness is expensive – it cost Christ His life to die for the world’s imperfection. But the payoff was priceless because no amount of money can ever repay that kind of gift of love! When couples grasp how much God loves them when extending grace and unconditional love to each other, they will experience a marriage that overflows with God’s love.