5 Practical Ways to Encourage Yourself During Your Single Season
Let me start by saying that there is nothing wrong with desiring to be married. However, it is important that you embrace every season of your life. If you are an unmarried person who desires to be married, sometimes those desires can get the best of you, especially when others around you are getting married. Here are a few practical ways to remain focused and encouraged while you wait for that special someone…
- Use Scripture
Scripture is always a dynamic way to combat thoughts that are unhealthy, worrisome, or overly exhaustive. Find scripture pertaining to trusting God and “waiting” on His timing. Meditating on Scripture daily will help shape your thought patterns. You will see soon become more focused and less distracted by “the wait.”
- Pray for Your Future Spouse
Protection, focus, prosperity, blessings, and the will of God for others’ lives are always great prayer targets. Never pray from a place of your desires; rather, learn to pray the desires of God for your future spouse. If you’re single, more than likely you’re not sure who your future spouse is; therefore, keeping it general prevents you from crossing into forbidden territory – praying outside the will of God.
- Read Books
Invest in books that discuss singles and marriage preparation. Such books will help you work on yourself while you wait and will keep you focused on growing as an individual. If you are distracted by thoughts about when your time to get married will come, you will miss the most important part of your life before marriage… being single! There’s so much for you to learn right now!
- Listen to Uplifting Music
I suggest putting love songs on the back burner during your single season. Music has the tendency to make us “feel” whatever the lyrics are saying. Therefore, choose music that is encouraging and light; this way you have a better chance of not being overcome by the emotions of desiring a relationship.
- Write Letters of Encouragement to Yourself
When you feel overcome by the desire to be married, write letters about the type of spouse you would like to be. Write about your strengths and weaknesses. Ask God to reveal ways in which you can grow while you’re single and dedicate yourself to doing so. Letters and journals are also powerful tools that can encourage you during your season.
Always remember, there’s nothing wrong with desire, but don’t let your desires surpass your reality.