4 Ways to Stay Pure As a Single Person
In this world, it’s hard to stay pure, especially as a single ! Read the tips below in order to thrive in your season of singleness !
1. Be In the Word
It’s important to mediate on the Word, day and night (Joshua 1:8). Psalm 119:9 (MEV) states, “How shall a young man keep his way pure? By keeping it according to Your word.” The Word tests our hearts, motives and desires (Hebrews 4:12). It renews our minds (Romans 12:2). Regularly reading the Word, strengthens our relationship with the Lord. The Word molds your desires into God’s (Ezekiel 36:26).
2. Keep an Active Prayer Life
Having an active prayer life will unleash God’s will for your life. God says you have not because you ask not (James 4:2) , but be careful not to ask from a selfish heart (James 4:3). If you are struggling in a certain area of purity, talking to God will give you the strength and guidance to move forward. Living a life of regular repentance will help you hear God’s voice. Also, take the time to listen to the Spirit and see where the Spirit is guiding you (Psalm 27:14).
3. Have an Accountability Partner/Group
Get involved with a men or women’s fellowship group. Surround yourself with people who will sharpen you (Proverbs 27:17) . You can create a WhatsApp group with like – minded individuals that you can talk to throughout the day. Find a mentor who will regularly check in on your spiritual status as well as one that you can trust with your struggles (Proverbs 15:22).
4. Flee From Youthful Lusts
Don’t indulge in shows, movies, books or music that will trigger feelings of lust or loneliness. Avoid shows that depict adulterous relationships or premarital sex. For example, if pornographic images appear on my webpage, I quickly exit the web page and immediately block any spam porn accounts. In high school, I used to watch teenage dramas, a lot of them were filled with scenes depicting premarital sex. Unsurprisingly, I started to experience lustful thoughts. R & B songs are nice, but if you notice that you start yearning and coveting for that “real love,” take a break. On the contrary, focus on media that edifies your spirit. Additionally, if you find yourself on social media envying others or feeling inadequate because you see that “everyone” is in relationships, with a house, baby and dream wedding photos – take a break! Guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23).
Look at King David. Despite slaying giants and armies in his youth, King David fell because he stared at Bathsheba ( 2 Samuel 11). David should have looked away but he chose to watch Bathsheba bathe. It led to a downhill cycle of adultery, a child born out of wedlock and murder. Don’t think you are more righteous than David. Remember, that we have to pursue holiness (Hebrews 12:14).
All in all, these tips were created to avoid unnecessary strife in your singleness. This won’t guarantee a bliss free season of singleness. The devil will do everything he can to make you feel sorry for yourself ! I can testify to struggling with loneliness at times. I am not perfect, and often succumb to my own weaknesses. However, God rejoices in our weaknesses because when we are weak, He is strong (2 Corinthians 12:10). Your season of singleness is a special time. This is the time you can reach the lost like never before, strengthen your relationship with God, pursue your dreams and heal from past wounds. Be blessed and stay strong in the Lord !